I have a disclaimer. Do not rely on the information in this blog as advice from a qualified professional, which I am not. All information presented is subjective and founded on personal experiments performed over a period of 22 years on three unsuspecting individuals. 


There are three types of parents. The helicopter parent, the drill sergeant parent and the consultant parent. The helicopter parent hovers over their children and rescues them from the hostile world in which they live. The drill sergeant parent commands and directs the lives of their children. The consultant parent provides guidance and consultation services for their children. My husband and I chose to be consultant parents. We wanted to help our children to understand that they are responsible for their actions. We wanted to allow reasonable, real-world consequences to do the teaching. I am going to share a small portion with you of how we implemented this type of parenting.

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We learned about these three types of parents in the book ‘Parenting with Love & Logic.’ Of course, we needed to conduct experiments to see if being a consultant parent was indeed a good type of parent to be. The first experiment was the ‘Light-bulb experiment.’ Our daughters were always leaving the lights on in their bedrooms (and other rooms). We were tired of nagging and threatening them to turn the lights off when they were not in the room. Now we had a fun way to get them to comply. They were informed that every time they left the lights on in their rooms we would remove a light bulb. If they wanted it back they had to pay for it. They didn’t worry about it too much at first because they each had 4 light bulbs. When they got down to that last bulb they began to sweat it. Then it happened; that day when the light switch didn’t illuminate the room. Forking over the money to buy a light bulb was not how they wanted or planned to spend their allowance. Lesson learned. Now they turn lights off behind us. 

Not only did we read parenting books, we prayed as well. Leaning on the Lord for guidance was the foundation from which we performed our parenting experiments.  According to the Bible, we can be thoroughly equipped for every good work by the lessons we learn from Scriptures. Cheating, lying, laziness, and many other topics can be addressed with the Bible. But how will they apply it? Will they remember to use what they have learned? 

That is where the Holy Spirit comes in. I pray for my children to be filled with the Holy Spirit. The Bible tells us that “the mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.” The Holy Spirit is the best conscience that a person could have. You could say that the Holy Spirit is kind of like Jiminy Cricket. Jiminy Cricket said, “A conscience is that still small voice that people won’t listen to.” My prayer for my children is that they will hear Him, that they will remember what they have been taught, and that they would have a heart willing to obey.

jiminy cricket quote

Teaching children the right thing to do, how to be considerate of others, and teaching them how to make wise decisions is like purchasing life insurance for them. Proverbs 22:6  says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” That’s a promise that I cling to. 

I encourage you to put some thought into how you parent your children. Even if your children are grown you can still make a difference in their lives by how you parent because let’s face it,  you will never stop being their parent. My husband and  I chose consultant parenting because we felt it would lend itself well even into our children’s adult years. What type of parent are you? Will the type of parent you are benefit your children even into their adult years? Remember, our children are the future. Let’s diligently train them for it.


By His Grace,

Momma Birdy


Favorite parenting books:

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Parenting in the 21st century. (2018, February 22). Retrieved from

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Overparenting: Are you a Helicopter Parent, Drill Sergeant or Laissez-faire? – Our Values. (2015, September 08). Retrieved from




Gift of Life


I haven’t posted anything in a few months. So much has happened in our lives. We had so much to consider, decisions to make, changes that happened, and I just couldn’t put words to paper during that time. I am still working on my “project” that I promised to share with you later. That has taken longer than anticipated, and I am not even positive that the Lord will allow me to continue down that path. As of right now I am still pressing on.

About a month ago my father had a stroke. That was a very scary time for me and my family. I just want to share my praise to God about this whole situation. God was with us through this is such a mighty way. My daddy survived the stroke and each day is a blessing.

gift-box-in-hand                                                     The gift of life realized more clearly.

It has been such a reminder that we don’t have the promise of tomorrow and that we need to show loving kindness towards one another right now. Don’t take each other for granted. Don’t assume that you will have tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. I was reminded through this that my parents will not always be with me, and that I had not really been mindful of that.

God has given me three precious weeks with my parents that I will forever be grateful for. My husband lovingly sent me to my parents home to help them through this time. I am so blessed to have such a wonderful husband who is so understanding and supportive of me. Memories were made that will forever be with me. I think that I have been walking in a state of mind for several years that there will always be tomorrow. I knew better. I know that today is all that we have, but this shook me to the core and drove that understanding to the forefront of my mind.

Another precious gift of life reminder that happened recently is that I am now a great aunt. Children are such a blessing.


I pray that you have a great day…week…month…year…life. Praise the Lord for the gift of life. Tell those that you love that you love them, nay…show them that you love them. Remember that God displayed His love towards us when He sent His Son. He has set a great example for us to follow.

John 3:16 English Standard Version (ESV)  16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

James 1:17 English Standard Version (ESV)  17 “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.”

By His Grace,

Momma Birdy

Cleaning can reveal hidden treasures

I have been doing some cleaning out recently. 572df5c032464.imageEven my email files needed some cleaning out. I was skimming through a file and found an email that I had saved back in 2009. Being a homeschool momma I was drawn to the title “Beauty of Mathematics.” I read through the email and was moved. I just can’t help but share it (probably yet again — years later). This time around I want to share it on a different platform. I don’t know who to give credit for this because it wasn’t in the email. I hope this blesses you just as it has blessed me.

Beauty of Mathematics !!!!!!!

1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321

1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
12345678 9 x 9 +10= 1111111111

9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888

Brilliant, isn’t it?

And look at this symmetry:

1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111 = 12345678987654321

Now, take a look at this…

From a strictly mathematical viewpoint:

What Equals 100%?

How about ACHIEVING 101%?


Here’s a little mathematical formula that might help 
answer these questions.



A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z 

is represented by its corresponding number

 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.


H-A-R-D-W-O- R- K = 

8+1+18+4+23+ 15+18+11 = 98%


K-N-O-W-L-E- D-G-E = 

11+14+15+23+ 12+5+4+7+ 5 = 96%


A-T-T-I-T-U- D-E = 

1+20+20+9+20+ 21+4+5 = 100%

THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:

L-O-V-E-O-F- G-O-D = 

12+15+22+5+15+ 6+7+15+4 = 101%

Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that: 

While Hard Work and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there,
It’s the Love of God that will put you over the top!

Have a nice day & God bless!!







By His Grace,

Momma Birdy


What are you thinking about?

I have been hanging out in a hotel for almost two weeks now while my husband is in training. Being just the two of us has been wonderful. Our conversations have been deep and fruitful. We are working on a project right now (I will spill the beans about that in a future blog), and the time here, without any of the day to day distractions, has leant itself to much planning and actually getting some things accomplished. With that said, I have had enough. I am so ready to go home. I miss my little birds. I know that they aren’t little anymore, but they will always be my little birds. I miss my nest, and my daily routine of keeping my nest. I miss my two fur-babies, too.


For ten hours a day over the last two weeks (weekends excluded) I have been sitting in this hotel room, as I mentioned before. That is a lot of time on my hands. What I have learned about myself is that I can waste a day better than anybody else I know. Ha!

Let me tell you something that has been pressing on me though. With all that time to just think, I became very aware of the direction that my thinking went in. A couple of times I became sad because I was keeping my focus on something that I have no control over. A couple of times I became anxious, thinking about all the things that could go wrong with our project. Each time this stinking thinking occurred the Lord would gently nudge me to stop. I would then pace the hotel room praying out loud. People walking down the hall probably thought I was a nut. I don’t even care. It was healing balm for my soul.

Philippians 4:8 says,“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”(ESV)

This is where my thinking is now; instead of being sad because I have no control over a situation, I am giving it to God and trusting Him with it; instead of being anxious about things that haven’t even happened I am focusing on the things that are happening, and I can see the blessing in how it is coming together like it is. When I began to align my thinking with what the Word tells me to think about I began to see the beauty in my life again.

We are surrounded by stinking thinking. It is on the t.v. in the news, episodes, and movies that we watch. It is in the books that we read and the music that we listen to. I see it in the tweets and the posts on Facebook.


What are you thinking about? Is it true? Is it honorable or just? Is is pure, lovely, or commendable? Is there any excellence in it? Is there anything worthy of praise in what you are thinking about? If the answer is no. Pray. And when you pray, use the Word of God as a model for your prayers. This has strengthened my prayer life tremendously.

Here is an example of a prayer that I wrote out the other day after the Lord nudged me to quit my stinking thinking. “I trust in you, Lord Jesus. I delight myself in you. Let the desires of my heart be to do your will. I commit my way to you, Jesus; I trust in you, that in my life you will act. You will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. I will be still before you and wait patiently for you; I will not fret.” This prayer was modeled after verses from Psalm 37:3-9. His word is powerful. Healing balm for my soul.

Remember what it says in Proverbs 4:23 “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.”(ESV)  We keep our hearts by guarding what we think on.


Psalm 19:14 “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.” (ESV)

By His Grace,

Momma Birdy

Don’t settle for empty carbs


27 “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, which outwardly appear beautiful, but within are full of dead people’s bones and all uncleanness. 28 So you also outwardly appear righteous to others, but within you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness.” -Matthew 23:27-28 (ESV)

When God dwelt among us, robbed in the flesh as Jesus Christ (John 1:14), He spent time rebuking the religious people. Why? I believe the answer lies in what He says to them. He said that they were like whitewashed tombs full of dead people’s bones. Many equate religion with God. To them it is the same thing. To be religious is to be godly and follow God. But, we see in the Bible that that is just simply not true.

6″Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”-John 14:6 (ESV)

25″Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live,”-John 11:25 (ESV)

If being in a religion is following God and He is life, then why were the religious people likened to a whitewashed tomb full of dead people’s bones? The answer is that they made too much of religion. To them is was the following of the law that saved them.

God saves us.

empty carbs

Let me put it to you this way: Religion is to empty carbs as Jesus is to food with nutritional value. Religion leaves you hungry for more, and lacking in sufficient nutrients. With Jesus you will never hunger or thirst again, because your soul is being fed what God created you to be fed with.


Since I met Jesus and became a disciple I have had periods where I was thirsty and hungry for Him. It was during those times that I had not nurtured my relationship with Him. I was homesick and just needed to spend time with Him. So, when I say that you will never hunger or thirst again I am saying that as long as you are nurturing your relationship with Him you will not. The thing with religion is that you hunger and thirst and try to fill it with works of service and what not all, but you eventually become weary and feeling dried up inside (dead people’s bones, hello). You act right, you do all the right things, but it is never good enough. You never find that point of satisfaction and peace; that only comes from Jesus.

good nutrition

With Jesus, I am enough, just as I am. He loves me and gently corrects me. He blesses me when I walk in obedience; when I stumble and fall, He picks me up and washes me off. When I spend time with Him, He fills my soul with good nutrition. With that nutrition I am able to do good works and pour out my life into the lives of others.

Can you be in a relationship with Jesus and be religious? Yes. I am not saying that being religious is wrong. We need to be in community; together with other disciples of Christ we make up the body of Christ, with Him as our head. We should gather together to spur one another on, and to lift one another up. What I am saying is that you need to evaluate yourself. Are you trying to reach God through your religion; or are you joining yourself to other Christians, as the body of believers, because Jesus reached you with His atoning power? There is a difference. Check to see if there is any Pharisee in you and then repent.

Don’t settle for empty carbs. Go for the good stuff.

By His Grace,

Momma Birdy


We live in a great country that was established on the very conviction of freedom. But, as American-flag-map-3Americans, do we have the same idea about freedom that our founding fathers did? I am convinced more today than ever before that we have a very selfish, twisted view of freedom.

Today I was watching Jim Caviezel’s Testimony. If you don’t know who Jim Caviezel is, he is the man who played Jesus in ‘The Passion of the Christ’ directed by Mel Gibson. Thorn again … Jim Caviezel as Jesus in Mel Gibson's The Passion of the Christ (2004).In this interview he said something that hit home to me. I have been praying for the people of our country and I have watched the selfish, twisted view of freedom play out before me over the years. Jim said, “Every generation of Americans needs to know that freedom exists not to do what you like, but having the right to do what you ought.”

I agree 100% with him. The Bible says in John 8:36 (ESV) “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” This is a verse that really excites me. I am free. Romans 8:2 (ESV) “For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.” That is liberating news, especially to the person crushed by the guilt and weight of their sins. Too many use this freedom to do what they like as Jim Caviezel pointed out. What does God say to do with our freedom?

“Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants of God.” 1 Peter 2:16 (ESV)

“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.” Galatians 5:13 (ESV)

” This is how one should regard us, as servants of Christ and stewards of the mysteries of God. Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found faithful.” 1 Corinthians 4:1-2 (ESV)

“For he who was called in the Lord as a bondservant is a freedman of the Lord. Likewise he who was free when called is a bondservant of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 7:22 (ESV)

There are many, many more verses that keep with the same idea. Our freedom is from sin and death. Our freedom is the right to do what we ought, to be a servant of Christ, to love one another.

Let freedom truly ring in your life. Love God. Love others.


By His Grace,

Momma Birdy


Don’t be blinded by your desires or deceived by a form of logic that denies Christ.

Question – “If He is truly a God of love then why torment us with Hell?”

Answer- “Why do we  send lawbreakers to prison? We do it because laws are put into effect and the consequences of choice determine whether you are free or bound.”


We all have sinned; we have all broken the law of God. Jesus has offered Himself up in our place. The cost for this service is to come under His authority so He can keep us from continuing down The path of destruction.
If you find yourself in Hell it will be by your choice, not God’s choice.
2 Peter 3:8-10 (ESV)
“8 But do not overlook this one fact, beloved, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. 9 The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come like a thief, and then the heavens will pass away with a roar, and the heavenly bodies will be burned up and dissolved, and the earth and the works that are done on it will be exposed.”


Life is too short and eternity too long. Don’t be so consumed with the present that you fail to prepare for the future.
Revelation 20:15 (ESV)
“15 And if anyone’s name was not found written in the book of life, he was thrown into the lake of fire.”


With all sincerity and love,

Momma Birdy